Friday, August 10, 2018

Litsea Breakdown

Litsea
Litsea Cubeba

Litsea is a simply beautiful oil. It's clean scent reminds me of a blend of lemongrass and citrus. It is uplifting and refreshing and a welcome addition to the oil collection of any citrus lover.

Description:
Litsea cubeba is an evergreen tree or shrub belonging to the Lauraceae family. Its fruit produces Litsea—a lemon-like
essential oil with a wide range of aromatic uses. Being native to East Asia, Litsea has a long history of traditional use by the indigenous people of Taiwan and has been widely distributed in Japan, Taiwan, Southern China, and
Southeastern Asia. Due to its high content of geranial and neral, Litsea has many surface cleansing properties. Geranial and neral are also found in Melissa and Lemongrass and have very similar scents and properties. When diffused, Litsea can promote feelings of fresh energy
to your day. 

Directions for Use:
Diffusion: Use three to four drops in the diffuser of your choice.
Topical use: Dilute one to two drops with dōTERRA Fractionated Coconut Oil then apply to desired area. See additional precautions below.


Primary Physical Benefits:
• Diffuse for a refreshing and uplifting aroma
• Used in aromatherapy and meditation for balance
and inspiration
• Diffuse while working or exercising to bring fresh energy and stimulation 
• Diffuse or apply one to two drops to a scarf or shawl to promote feelings of balance throughout the day.
• Create your own blend by combining with complimentary oils such as Lavender, Ylang Ylang, Rose, Sandalwood, Frankincense, Geranium, Vetiver, or Fennel.
• Diffuse during meditation to help clear your mind and rejuvenate energy.



Primary Emotional Benefits:
Courage, Intuition, Inspired, Receptive to possibilities, Catalyst

Negative emotions addressed:
Confused, Cloudy, Blocked, Self-doubt, Low self worth

Aromatic Description:
Clean, Fresh, Sweet

Body Systems addressed:
- Emotional System
- Integumentary System
- Nervous System
- Respiratory System
- Cardiovascular System

Cautions:
Possible skin sensitivity. Keep out of reach of children. If you are pregnant, nursing, or under a doctor’s care, consult your physician. Avoid contact with eyes, inner ears, and sensitive
areas. 

Other Litsea references:
To purchase Litsea connect with the wellness advocate that directed you here. Or if you are not currently connected with a wellness advocate visit my sales site at www.mydoterra.com/maggiedubois or contact me directly here for an opportunity to get your oil at a discounted price.

Sources: www.doTERRA.com, Emotions and Essentials Oils: A modern resource for healing

*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease





Thursday, August 9, 2018

What NOT to say to a woman going through a divorce



So ya'll know by now I'm a candid person. But, sometimes I hold back some things I want to say for fear of "perception". Once in a while these things stick around long enough that I finally get over that fear and share. This is one of those things.

Today I had to do something frightening and vaguely traumatizing. While experiencing it I had a well meaning, sweet Christian lady ask me, "so do you think there is no opportunity for reconciliation with your husband?" (said in a way that really meant, "I think you should consider reconciling)

phew.... where to begin...

Here's the thing I want to begin with... I know she was so well meaning. I know she was legitimately concerned and valuing marriage the best way she knew. I know that divorce is so extremely hurtful, and is never God's first choice (and if you haven't picked that up from my posts let's talk in person shall we).

But, that question stung. It didn't feel healthy. Here's why...

Firstly, this was not the first time I've been asked something similar. It actually is THE MOST common comment that is made when it is discovered i'm going through divorce (in the Christian community at least). And every time it comes up it feels like a knife in my gut.

I think this question is more hurtful than helpful...

Before you burn me at the stake with "don't you value marriage?!" and "don't you know how rampant divorce is?!" questions and comments... hear me out.

I have never been more pro marriage and more anti-divorce than I am at this moment. I value the covenant of marriage in a way that I never could have fathomed before now. I believe divorce is a scourge on society, and the breaks in the family unit all over the US breaks my heart. But, I am still a statistic. I still ultimately chose to walk away from my damaging relationship. And because my marriage fell in that "scriptural exception" category, I am given a pass by most in the church.

So knowing all this... how could I ever have a problem with the question she asked me?

Ok, on to the point...

This question does nothing but stir up angst, without a healthy direction no matter my response.

Let's for a moment, play out some possibilities. Remember, this is a woman I do not know. I am not in community with her. She knows hardly the tip of the iceberg about my life...

So, her question, and other variations of it, basically say, "why don't you give this another shot?"

If I am in a truly damaging marriage situation (like I was), with scriptural/religious backing to leave my marriage, all this question does is stir up fear, shame, regret, remorse and all sorts of traumatic feelings. It is like asking a rape victim to regale you with details of their experience. I now feel required to give adequate justification as to the severeness of sin in our marriage that gives me the "right" to leave. It forces me on the defensive and re-exposes me to the details of my traumatic experience.

All of this happens so I feel that I can "justify" my actions before a perfect stranger.

Ya'll... this isn't ok.

If this was a member of my Christian community... someone who has been invested in my life and well-being before this conversation, someone who has connected with me on a heart level... at that point I think a question like that, born out of an understanding of my heart posture and details of the experience, is a totally fair question.

But, in that scenario, i'm not required to go through those details and justify myself. It is now a heart to heart connection, with exhortation and love at the core. It prioritizes me as a human being, before my marriage as an entity.

If, on the other hand, my divorce wasn't scripturally justified. If I was just being selfish and self serving... it still doesn't change anything. Unless you have been in communion and connection with me, unless you have a deep investment in me as a person, pushing me to stay in a marriage isn't going to be effective or healthy. It is the equivalent of the Christian on the street corner yelling "repent lest ye perish"... it is lacking all grace, and I would suggest it is lacking actual love as well. It is a fear based conversation, idolizing marriage at the expense of a human being and their unique need to feel loved and change from a spirit of love, not coercion. Ultimately, it is trying to cash in trust when you've not yet earned it.

Now, let's finish with what I think would be more helpful, and, what I'm NOT saying.

I feel that you can still value marriage highly, while also not overstepping bounds and potentially stirring up trauma or resentment. You don't have to be silent and stoic if your heart is hurting for a broken marriage. If someone I don't know said to me, "I am so sorry to hear that. That is such a tragedy. Do you have anyone you can talk to about that? Can I offer a listening ear if not?" I would be so incredibly thankful.
A comment like that one does two things: It acknowledges the devastation of divorce, while also recognizing that a proper discussion of a marriage and divorce happens within community and relationship. It allows for someone like me to share that I am receiving counsel, or it gives me a space to ask for help.

Lastly, what I'm NOT saying.

I am not saying that all Christians need to "shut it" and let people go on their merry way towards divorce. I'm saying, that we need to be more concerned with relationship, rather than idolizing any one element of a person's "right actions". We need to trust people to those who have spent time building relationships with them, or be willing to truly jump in the trenches with them... not just shout directions from our ivory tower.

I'm not saying that divorce is always ok. I'm saying the exact opposite. But, I'm saying that putting someone that you hardly know on the defense never is going to get the desired results... no matter how kindly you intended it. If you stand beside that person and ask how you can help, I guarantee you will be able to speak into their lives with much more grace and authority as that relationship blossoms.

This goes for many many arenas. Divorce is simply the one I'm witnessing in this season. Take the time to pursue relationship before correction, and watch the true power of heart to heart connection take place.

Sunday, August 5, 2018

Agape



The mass is too great.  I strain and I strive with it's weight and expanse. But, small enough to carry in my pocket,  or slip in the crevices of my heart.

It is complex and manifold, greater than the expanse of the heavens. Yet,  the simplest of minds can grasp it in full.  Facile and bright.

The gravitas is severe, pressing with yawning, frightening,  intensity. But still light as a feather, tickling heart and mind with joy and flow.

I can plunge it's depths,  never to reach the bottom.  Fathomless ends. Yet I splash in it's shallows, face upturned, refreshing drops tracing my skin.

Wednesday, August 1, 2018

Simple Trust


Stolen.
The simple faith of the unfettered soul.
The rest and peace of the unblemished heart.
The security of the sincere, innocent girl.

Arose.
The retreat of the bloodied naivety
The fear of the volley and the violation
The doubt and insecurity of the wounded woman.

Trust.
So simple a thought and complex a reality
Did she really know it in the former?
Or, is greatest opportunity ripe in her hand?

Friday, June 8, 2018

The unexpected health risk you face every day




When it comes to health and wellness we often look at the things we put into our body via diet and supplementation, but it is not as often that we consider environmental factors and their impact on the body. This short blog post will give a brief overview on one of the most insidious and common factors in your health and wellness, that you likely hardly ever think about.

What is EMF exposure?
EMF stands for electromagnetic field. When we hear about EMF’s it is referring to a type of electromagnetic radiation. We experience these fields every day, from microwaves and radiowaves, to wifi signals and household appliance cords. These waves exist on a spectrum, and while the low frequency waves have been shown to be potentially harmful with extended exposure (household appliances, radios), the higher frequency waves have generally been shown to be much more hazardous (cell phone towers, microwaves etc). These waves are non-ionizing, unlike xrays, gamma rays and UV rays, but there is still evidence that they can be problematic in large amounts. We as a culture are extremely dependent on this form of technology, but we are discovering that we may be inducing a whole host of health issues as a result.
The World Health Organization recognizes the potential EMF problem, and does have guidelines for acceptable exposure. But, remember that anytime we create a guideline like this, it necessarily implies that any level of exposure is negative, but that we biologically can handle a certain amount before we will express symptoms as a result.

Why are they a problem?
Are body is an electromagnetic system, creating it’s own EMF waves. We live under a sun that produces EMF exposure. But, manmade EMF’s tend to be much stronger, and are most always operating at different frequencies. Just as we know we can experience burns and other negative results of the prolonged exposure to UV rays (a type of EMF wave) from the sun, it stands to reason that prolonged exposure to other waves of a different frequency than that of our own body could create problems biologically as well. Strength, duration, density and frequency will all impact the level of influence these waves can have on our health.

How can they affect me?
Studies show that these high frequency waves can interfere with cell signals and affect everything from sleep, to the immune system, to your DNA.
While anecdotal, thousands and thousands of people have reported worsening health symptoms when wifi or smart meters were installed in their homes. Many of these same people experience and immediate relief of symptoms when simple precautions are taken to decrease exposure.
We know also that mold growth is increased dramatically in the presence of EMF. As someone who has been massively impacted by health issues as a result of mold, I don’t think this is a small thing to consider.

The scientifically documented list of possible side effects to prolonged exposure include (but are not limited to) the following:
-          Brain Fog
-          Cancer
-          Insomnia
-          Hormone issues
-          Anxiety
-          Frequent and acute illness
-          Depression
-          Dizziness
-          Vertigo
-          Adrenal Fatigue

What now?
While it is hard to truly measure how much EMF exposure may or may not be effecting us, there are some simple steps we can take to reduce our level of exposure right away.

1.       Use ethernet when possible rather than WIFI
2.       Unplug your WIFI at night
3.       Put your phone in airplane mode whenever you are not actively using wifi and don’t need to receive calls
4.       Use speakerphone when you are making or receiving phone calls
5.       Don’t place your laptop on your lap
6.       Don’t use Bluetooth headsets and consider Bluetooth speakers in the car instead
7.       Replace fluorescent bulbs with incandescent bulbs instead
8.       Get rid of smart meters
9.       And most of all, take a break from your digital devices!

SSources:
https://wellnessmama.com/129645/emf-exposure/
www.earthrunners.com

Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Rock



I am the rock, for you are the rock
You in me, and I in you
Firm against the waves that pound
Crashing but go no further

You go before, and stand behind me
I am hidden in your strength
The water swirls around me
Finds no path. I, in your cleft

I'm wet, but the waves go no further
I won't call myself broken
Because I look at the stone
I don't dwell on the water

Safe on my sacred ground I stand sure
Our strength will break the next wave
The sun will dry the water
My heart knows, I am the rock

Saturday, March 17, 2018

Boundless


Possibility pulsing through my veins
My heart aches with the fullness

Light coursing from my pores
Tender and certain as a spring

My soul erupts with sense of worth
Fragments of love fill these footsteps

Wholeness is my grace and portion
I've surrendered to your boundless flow